What Girls/Boys Need to Know: "Secondhand Lions"

The axis mundi of “Secondhand Lions,” starring Robert Duvall, Michael Caine and Haley Joel Osment, is that the kid is desperate to learn what he needs in order to become a good man.  He’s never heard truth from his mother.  He’s never had a good man in his life.  How can he figure out what’s true?  How can he learn what he needs?  How can he overcome his self-doubt?  To what should he devote himself?  Whose side should he take? Finally, one night, he pleads and forces Robert Duvall to give THE SPEECH – “What boys need to know in order to become good men (and girls to become good women).”

The Kid: “I don’t know what’s true.  I don’t know what to believe.”

Robert Duvall: “Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most:  That people are basically good; that honor, courage and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil – and I want you to remember this – that love, true love never dies.  You remember that boy, remember that.  Doesn’t matter whether it’s true or not, you see, a man should believe in those things because those are the things worth believing in.  Got that?”

I love that speech.  It’s not about what’s true; it’s about deciding what ideas will be your pole star; it’s about deciding what you will devote yourself to in the creation of your future.  And these are values that are worthwhile devoting yourself to.

If you devote yourself to those values you can live gloriously every day.  If you turn your back on the good; on honor, courage and virtue; on true love, your life will be empty, you will have no chance.

A theme in “The Last Samurai” is living nobly, living with honor – no matter the consequences.  That’s why, at the end, when the young Emperor asks Tom Cruise to tell him how the Samurai died, Cruise answers. “I will tell you how he lived.”  That’s the example the Emperor needs.

Choose whether to live a selfish, shabby, sordid story or a great and worthy story.  Be the hero of your life.

To what will you devote the rest of your life?

In “The Last Samurai,” with Tom Cruise and Ken Watanabe, the Samurai asks Tom Cruise what he has devoted his life to.  Up to that point, nothing.  He has had and still has nothing worthwhile to devote himself to.  So he is empty; a shriveled heart moving from one whiskey bottle to the next.  And the rest of the movie the question falls from the air like a warm spring mist, “To what will you devote the rest of your life?” What might be worthwhile?

The great literature shows what is not worthwhile – money, power, position, fame, celebrity, ego, videogames.  You know the list – the 7 deadly sins and all the rest.

Of course, we want to master skills and we want enough money and stuff and a job that doesn’t crush us.  But if making our living costs so much that it ruins our lives, it’s not worth it.  You know, “What profiteth a man if he gain the world but lose his soul?”

There are some people who do devote their lives to their careers or their missions, but not many.  You know how wonderful you feel when you master a skill you love.  And how the world opens up when you master yourself or when you devote yourself to that which inspires your spirit.

So…To what will you devote the rest of your life?