Even before the economy started falling because of the Covid 19 virus, your controlling, bullying, narcissistic, toxic adult children wanted you to support them, obey them and accept the pain and guilt of their negativity, criticism and beatings. They’re convinced they’re entitled so they punished you by estranging from you and depriving you of your beloved grandchildren.
Now, if they’re in financial trouble or just want your baby sitting at a moment’s notice, their demands, lying promises and manipulations have increased. You must atone for being the worst parent ever by giving them what they want and making them happy. If you abandon them now, you’ll prove you were always the most uncaring, unfeeling, failure as a parent. And they’ll make sure everyone in the world knows and scorns you.
The truth is you weren’t a bad parent. You may even have another child who turned out fine. If anything, you gave too much. You thought your most important job as a parent was to show your love, build their self-esteem and protect them from any consequences of their actions.
But you’ve learned the hard way that loving by giving more and more does not change bullies and narcissists.
They’ve proven they don’t care about you. So stop trying to educate and save them. Stop begging them to grow up. They rejected your wisdom long ago.
You’re stuck in an inner war. You don’t want to be their servant, slave, Cinderella or scapegoat; you don’t even like them. But you still love them.
It’s heart-breaking, gut-wrenching. Your grief is devastating. What can you do? What should you do? There is a better way of loving and parenting them. There is a light in the darkness.
Begin by watching this new video: Stop supporting toxic adult children
https://youtu.be/-XSZLIXDLYk
Stop supporting them, become a better parent and live the rest of your life with zest and joy. Expand your Comfort Zone and create a personal plan that will be effective in your specific situation.
Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.