Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes at Work

Might you have a serious problem in your team, department or whole organization?

• Are good employees protected from bullies, negative complainers, toxic coworkers, subtle manipulators, nitpicking control freaks, rule-floggers, gossips, passive-aggressive stalkers, energy vampires, meeting disruptors, demanders, meddlers, micromanagers, critics,  conflict-avoidant managers, “professional victims,” Drama Queens, or jerks?
• Are you wasting your time and effort to understand and rehabilitate splinters, rotten apples and cancers – at all levels in your company?

In this 3 CD set, “How to Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes,” complete with workbook, designed for managers at all levels, you’ll learn:

• Why good, well-meaning people fail to establish high standards of professional behavior, and how organizations participate in begging, bribery and appeasement of low attitude staff at all levels.
• How to recognize covert, sneaky, stealthy, backstabbing, manipulative bullies and their cliques.
• The true cost of negativity, emotional sabotage, poor customer service and low attitudes in your workplace and on your personal life.
• How to make attitudes and professional behavior as important as deliverables.
• The importance of the 990/10 rule and why not to “counsel” a problem employee.
• How to weed out determined bullies and predators, and turn around a culture of entitlement.
• Methods to protect your personal ecology from abuse, harassment and bullying behavior, and create and maintain team ground rules.
• Why you can’t stop bullying with employee satisfaction surveys.
• How the right discipline increases morale and team performance.

What’s the cost of accepting low attitudes?  Slow erosion of your soul!

Gain the courage and skills to handle the tough situations you encounter legally and do what you need to do as a leader.

Order “How to Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes,” by itself or as part of the Professional Life Bundle from this web site and get fastest delivery.

All tactics are situational.  In addition to these guidelines, expert coaching and consulting can help you create and implement a plan that fits you and your organization.

Don’t try to make all your employees happy

Don’t try to make all your employees happy.  But do make your best employees happy. Do you recognize who the best employees and managers are?

We can’t define who the best are, but we all recognize them.  They’re the ones with inspiration – the inner drive to accomplish things and succeed.  At all levels, they’re superstars and solid, steady, productive professionals.  They’re the beavers eager to learn, develop skills and be competent and productive.  They want to be efficient and effective.  They take responsibility and they care.

They’re the ones who anchor a culture of success.  They keep communication channels open and they get along well enough with other productive individuals in order to make their teams succeed.  They take care of customers and teammates.  They partner with employees on other teams when success depends on joint effort.  They’re the low-maintenance people we can count on.l

It’s a pleasure to make them happy.  They appreciate your efforts and respond with more of their own.

You can generalize by thinking that your organization has about 15% stars and 75% solid producers – all in that group of high quality employees you want to keep happy.

The other 15% are the problem adults.  They’re the whining complainers, hyper-critical bosses, lazy slackers, negative discouragers, backstabbing rumormongers and gossips, know-it-all squelchers, micro-managing nit-pickers and turf-protecting power brokers – to name only a few.  They’re unproductive, but always have excuses they think justify their unprofessional behavior.  They create hostile workplaces.  They’re energy vampires – they can suck the life out of any effort.  No matter how much you give them, it’s never enough.  They’re not grateful and they don’t give back.  They demand or connive to get more.

Don’t try to make them happy.  It’s an impossible task.  You’d have to cater to them and give away your organization to them.  Instead, good leaders and managers help them go somewhere else.  Maybe they’ll be happy at another company or maybe you can get them a job in a competitor’s organization.

Give your time, energy and goodies to your high quality employees.  How?  You don’t need my top 10 list to get started making your best employees happy.  Maximize their chances for success.  Give them all the training, equipment, operating systems and support they need to succeed.  To high quality people, accomplishment is an aphrodisiac.  Beyond that – ask them.  Every individual will have an individual list of desires – training, opportunities for advancement, cleansing their environment of losers, more flex-time and money, etc.  Then do your best to give it to them.

What if there’s more than 15% bottom feeders at your company, and management doesn’t care?  Be one of the best employees.  Try to get the attention of leaders.  If that doesn’t work, go be a best employee at your competitor’s company.

Stop verbal abuse by a know-it-all boss

Iris’s manager knows everything.  He bullies Iris and her co-workers by being right and righteous; he’s sarcastic and demeaning.  He destroys teamwork by his constant criticism.  There’s never a word of praise, only correction and put-downs delivered in a haughty voice.  Every sentence starts with an unspoken, “Well, stupid, you should know …” or an exasperated, “I’m so frustrated; you’re so incompetent.” He acts superior while he runs down each employee to the other managers or bigger bosses.  He lists their faults and every mistake they’ve ever made.  There’s never a word of praise for their many accomplishments.  He seems to enjoy making each critical, hostile remark.  He says that it’s for their own good; it’ll help them become perfect.

Iris feels chastised, like she’s a child being corrected by a harsh parent.  She’s worked at the company for 15 years; her boss for 5.

What do you think should she do about his bullying?

Iris’s manager’s style of leadership is like the statement attributed to Captain Bligh of the Bounty, “The beatings will continue until morale improves.”  His verbal abuse creates a hostile workplace and it destroys her confidence and self-esteem.  She wonders if there’s a kernel of truth in what he says.  She’s also afraid of protest because he is her boss and she should respect his position, confrontation is distasteful and she might lose her job.

Iris is in a tough spot.  Her boss is a well-known type.  First, he’s a know-it-all who enjoys putting down people.  Second, he’s also the town gossip, dishing the dirt on everybody.  Bullies like him rarely change because of pressure from below.  After all, he does know best.

Doesn’t he sound like some parents we all know who think that the best way to help their children is to pound them relentlessly and embarrass them in public?  Deep down, these merciless parents do feel self-satisfied and righteous. Know-it-all bullies and town-gossips sometimes change when there’s strong, consistent pressure from above.  The pressure must be coupled with, “Change or you’re gone.”  But Iris’s manager has made himself seem indispensible to the bigger bosses, so Iris will have some difficult choices:

• Be as straightforward as she can with the bigger boss, knowing that her manager will find out and try to get her fired.
• Go to the bigger boss with most of the team, in hopes that the weight of numbers will sway the bigger boss.
• Find a bigger boss that she thinks will act wisely and keep her from getting terminated.
• Transfer to another department or look for another job – which is hard since Iris’s been there 15 years.
• Take it as best she can until she retires.

Iris should realize that her manager will take whatever she does as mutiny and will try to strike back.  I’ve rarely seen know-it-alls and town-gossips change.  Iris’s in a tough fight.

Coaching and the book, “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks,” helped Iris see her boss as a bully.  She realized how skilled she was at work and that she could get other jobs.  She refused to waste 8 hours a day for the rest of her life in workplace-hell.  Her determination and courage soared.

She used the five-step process and decided to go to the big boss.  But the big boss only gave Iris a lecture on how valuable Iris’s manager was.  The big boss wouldn’t even let Iris make her case.

Two bullying bosses were two too many for Iris.  She resigned.  She was surprised when she rapidly received a number of better job offers.

Iris said that the big inspiration for her came when she had a name for what was happening – “bullying.”  That freed her from her self-imposed restraints.  She said that she felt the weight of the world lifted from her shoulders.  She now feels free and alive like she hasn’t for years.

I think that self-esteem begins with actions.  Strategic action (whether it works out the way we hope or not) increases confidence and self-esteem.  Iris got herself out of a situation that she couldn't change.

She was successful.  Notice I say that without any knowledge of the future – whether her new job will be better in the long run.  Success is measured by the right actions you take, not by how wonderful it works out each time.  In the long run, as you keep taking the right actions every day, you'll get more of the results you want.  And your personal and work space will have fewer bullies to bother you or waste your time.